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  • Writer's pictureEast Martin CRC

She Said Yes! Kind of.

1 Samuel 25:39-41

Verse 41 She bowed down with her face to the ground and said, “I am your servant and am ready to serve you and wash the feet of my lord’s servants.”

While Abigail is mourning her foolish husband word gets to David that the rich man has died. David’s response is a reminder of the wisdom that the beautiful rich lady had imparted to him a week or so before. David hadn’t needed to avenge himself because God would take revenge for him, smiting the man who had more enemies than friends. David was so thankful that he had been rebuked and shown the truth of the fall out of following his own desires.

Those memories of Abigail getting off of the donkey to call him out on his wrongful anger seems to remind him of the beauty of this wise lady. A wise lady would be someone who would be good to have around and the fact that she is now a widow doesn’t escape the future king. She has already proven she believes in him and seems to know where God is taking him in life. In his mind there was only one thing to do, make this woman his wife.

David wastes no time sending some of his men to collect Abigail to be his wife. When the servants arrive and tell the new widow what David wants, she gives maybe the strangest response to a proposal. She bows to his servants and says she is their servant and is ready and willing to wash their feet.

Her response may be one of the strangest sounding answers to a proposal but it wasn’t just about her. She wasn’t agreeing to marry David because he was the hottest celebrity of the day. Nor was she saying she would be his wife for what it could mean for her and her status. Abigail knew the man was more than his famous name, the mighty warrior she knew him to be or the future king. This lady who had been married to a fool saw the opportunity to be connected to a man who had made wise choices in the past.

While Abigail’s answer to the proposal says she is willing to be his servant, David is hoping to have a beautiful wife who had already proven herself to be a wise, fearless person of conviction. She had been willing to put herself in danger of her husband’s wrath to save David from his own wrath and she wasn’t afraid to speak boldly to the most well-known warrior of the time. She was definitely a special lady.

Making It Personal

What are some of the most important decisions you have made? Do you feel you made wise decisions? What decision is in front of you now which requires a decision?

Making It Personal Kids

Have you ever had to make an important decision? How did you decide what to do? Would Jesus agree you made the best choice?

Closing Prayer

Father, thank You for being there to give us wisdom when we have big decisions to make. Help us come to You and obey Your guidance for each decision we need to make. In Jesus’ name, amen.


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